Suicide Prevention Week: Ask for help

Earlier this summer there was a collective hush at the announcement of the suicide of celebrity chef Anthony Bourdain. The much-loved host of CNN’s Parts Unknown passed away on June 8, in Paris. It occurred while he was away filming an episode of the show. While in the past he had spoken openly about his struggles with depression it was still a surprise. Bourdain who had started dating Asia Argento in 2017 told PEOPLE that he wanted to spend as much time as he could with her, “ I’m happier for sure. It’s nice to be with somebody who I see as a peer.”

Bourdain is not alone when it comes to dealing with mental health struggles. According to the Depression and Bipolar Alliance major depressive disorder affects nearly 15 million Americans 18  and older annually. But what’s more startling is that the rates of suicide don’t seem to be declining, In the past white middle-aged men have accounted for the majority of suicides new stats suggest that those younger are really at risk. In a recent study, it was found that kids are either thinking about or attempting suicide have doubled in the past decade.

As informative as it is to have the stats the real question lies with figuring how to intervene and possibly save a life. We have heard friends and relatives say that the person seemed ok and didn’t see it coming. Those who suffer seem to be very adept at disguising their inner battles. 

They may reach out and ask for help and they very well might not. This leaves friends and family frustrated. But if you know of someone who seems depressed you can be on the lookout for some possible signs that they feel overwhelmed. 

Possible signs of suicide

Talks about suicide: if someone mentions it in passing do not take it lightly.

Asks about access to deadly items: if they seem to be interested in acquiring a gun, pills, knives or other items that can be used destructively.

Hopelessness: expresses that there is no hope for the future, says that they feel trapped. Or carry’s the belief that nothing will ever change.

Self-hatred: they express that they feel worthless, carry guilt and shame or feel that they are a burden.

Making arrangements: gives away prized possessions and writes a will.

Goodbyes seem final: makes unexpected calls and visits to friends and family like they will never see that person again.

Withdraws and develops a sense of calm: decreases their social interactions and wants to be alone. Or becomes really quiet and calm after an episode with depression.

Seek help

While these are just some of the signs there are others as well.  We may not have all the answers but do that there are those willing to be helpful.  If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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